Nobody wants to think there is a speck of unworthy feelings within them. It beckons of weakness. Yet even the most confident of souls encounter subconscious threads of unworthiness popping up here and there.
Who am I to have it better than I already do? How do I impart to my patients the understanding of their unlimited nature? Who am I to come back even better than before? Who am I to be magnetic to this much good? Who am I to sell or write or teach or travel or run or be rich or be this dang happy or heal or be in perfect health or….?
Maybe from past conditioning, from the thought fields of others hurling around the ethers, religious perspectives, trauma, or the untapped recesses of mental ancestry these questions can nag at our tender power of worthiness.
Still, it isn’t going anywhere. It just is. It is us who must connect with this frequency that is constantly available to us, within and around us.
“Stop acting so small. You are the universe in ecstatic motion.” ~ Rumi
The first day of my junior year high school history class, my teacher said in his corny and predictable way (imagine teenagers rolling their eyes), “Today you have an A. How you participate determines whether you keep that A.”
He was trying to instill confidence in us that we were starting at the top and we had the ability to stay there. He was also, not so subtly, trying to scare the bejeezus out of us, to motivate us to keep the A.
Worthiness and unworthiness can play out in a similar way in the human psyche even though the fact is, we are born worthy. Something can scare the bejeezus out of our worthiness, even though in reality it cannot be earned or taken away.
A businessman trying to gain his confidence back after a significant loss in his company; a businesswoman doubling or tripling her company’s assets in the middle of a recession; an athlete coming back after injury to win; the confidence and vision to heal completely from dis-ease; a man developing a new family of fulfilling relationships after leaving a toxic situation; becoming the highest and best in yourself just because you can and you want to.
Your worthiness, our worthiness, is existential, (woven into our existence). You are by definition “good enough,” as people like to say, and deserving. It cannot be otherwise. The opinions, choices, capabilities, or judgments of others or within yourself cannot change your worthiness—they cannot make you or take away or “good enoughness.”
That doesn’t mean that everyone has the ability to be a rock musician, a mathematician, or a sculptor. It doesn’t mean you won’t have to build skills for your craft. It doesn’t mean that people won’t come and go. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t apologize. Everyone is good enough—worthy—regardless of the distributions of talent, money, intellect, love and health.
“Listen to the mustn’ts, child.
Listen to the don’ts
Listen to the shouldn’ts,
The impossibles, the won’ts.
Listen to the never haves,
Then listen close to me…
Anything can happen, child.
Anything can be.” ~ Shel Silverstein
The better we become at simply knowing our worthiness regardless of what we walk through in life, the better we become at calibrating back to this innate truth, from wherever we’ve been—without the need for fear or proving anything to keep our “A”.
Worthiness in its wholeness and subtly is the precursor to so many rich character qualities. It contains the power required to apologize, for example, as well as the power to discern and go your own way.
It is worthiness that drives you to come back after loss; to dream a bigger dream. It is worthiness that undergirds your bliss, your confidence as well as your tenderness and compassion. It is worthiness that causes healing and transformation. It is worthiness that embraces your talents large and small.
“Life loves to be taken by the lapel and told: I’m with you kid, let’s go.” ~ Maya Angelou
Our worthiness also loves companions—our own companionship and those of others. Those people who breathe the light back into our dreams, even if we waver for just a moment. Those books and blogs and friends and myriad sources of inspiration that take us firmly by the lapel and in no uncertain terms remind us that our success, and more success, is inevitable, that they are with us, so let’s go.
Developing your connection with and awareness of your innate worthiness will shift you into authentic power in the most subtle, ecstatic, and peaceful of ways; into greater expression of your talents and your passion to express them; into an intense desire for the highest and best in yourself, in all things; and into greater synchronicities.
How do you connect? Simply begin to feel it within you, because that’s where it lives. It’s not going anywhere.
“Don’t you know yet? It is your light that lights the world.” ~Rumi
Here’s to more of You in the world, ❤️