"I wouldn’t have believed anyone that I had anything to work on. On paper, my life looked fine. But I was miserable. My identity was wrapped up in what I did and what I could fix. I was taught that is where I gained my value and I worked hard at it.
In hindsight, I realize I was completely untethered, disconnected from everything in my life, especially myself. We started with the context of business, which immediately involved everything. Now every aspect of my life has upgraded and transformed.
My biggest doubt was that it could really be this easy. Shelley’s brand of energetic approach and transformation is astounding, warp speed, compassionate, uncompromising. I was fighting against a huge intellectual component, intellectualizing everything. Again, a defensive safety mechanism for me to preserve the sense of self and value I didn’t really have. Dissolving that was a game changer for me. I couldn’t have done that through a mental, mindset, self-development approach. My intellect actually serves me now instead of me being a slave to it. My creative side is set free to expand and express.
It blows me away when Shelley sees physical things going on in me—my hips, or my son—wetting the bed—in the context of something else we are transforming that day. Then it’s gone. All of it. This is comprehensive change. I was clinging to what I thought gave me value. Working to fix something. Saying yes to everything. Living by external motivators, expectations of others, perceptions from others, the pain of the past, what the world said was valuable.
I am so appreciative to shake off what isn’t me. Shelley helped me figure out what I value, continually questioning the “why” behind my choices. I have and am defining my own value and coming from that in what I create for my life now. I am grounded in what I want out of life. I’ve become independent, less apologetic, honest with myself and others, grounded, whole instead of feeling in fragments, genuinely happy instead of distracting myself from sadness.
I am poised to soar into more of the life I love from a congruent core, a feeling of wholeness that I can continue to evolve from; in a livelihood that thrives me in every way, being the mother I wanted to be; expressing myself creatively and authentically in writing; living a life that is truly mine instead of society’s or everyone else’s. And making the difference I want to make in the world.
It’s hard to put a value on that. Thank you for leading me to a true internal sense of value. This is evolutionary change for me.
"Now I am living by the power of choice, which is true freedom. I am poised to soar into more of the life I love from a congruent core, a feeling of wholeness that I can continue to evolve from."